Ooooh, cavil - good word!

And yes, you are correct - pointing too broadly at the good stuff is counter-productive.

As for asking, at this point in where we are, surprises for him are probably not a good thing.

The trouble with having an open mind is that people put things in it.

My sitch - Divorce Busted!
http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=1804137#Post1804137