During their conversations, she continues to admit openly that she continues to see the OM, have meals with, wants to pursue a relationship with him, if she feels guilty, she looks towards Tristan for a reaction and gets "it's ok, I'll still love you and support you even if you walk all over my heart".
Is anyone else reading that much so far or is it really just me that sees this.
This part, I see too.
Even before robx posted this, I couldn't shake the niggling gut feeling (based on your conversations as reported) that she's looking for you to set a boundary for her, "make her" stop seeing OM.
Obviously, my gut feeling is worth what you paid for it. But it's something to consider. Might she be feeling so torn and not wanting to "hurt" either you or the OM that she just wants someone to make the decision for her?
All that notwithsatnding, if her IC is worth his/her salt, she will be advised to put off making ANY of these life-altering decisions until she is fully stabilized on her meds for a time. By the same token, while I am sensible to some of robx's points, pushing her into a decision when her brain chemistry is in flux is unlikely to be in anyone's best interest.
"Show me a completely smooth operation and I'll show you someone who's covering mistakes. Real boats rock." -- Frank Herbert
