I have to agree with both KD4 and Harpo. They both are giving you excellent advice. Believe those who are here longer when they tell you it is your H's guilt.
I made so many excuses for my H, but when it hits you smack dab in the face, you have to begin to understand that they are not being fair to you.
Yes, they have a right to move and change, but it does not make for a happy camper for those of us on the other side -- the LBS. Never forget that we are all here for a reason.
If God does not reveal it to you immediately, it is because he knows you cannot handle it. He only gives you as much as you can handle. I truly believe this!
I went to see my priest today. I revealed information I have just recently received. And my priest confirmed to me that it was God's hand that made this information available to me, at this time. If I had it a year ago, I would not have been able to handle it. Trust me when I tell you these things.
As far as your H's letter to your D, and his words, "D, I will be in contact with you. I will not call your mother's phone. Sone how some way we will talk I promise you." I am not sure what he means by that.
People told me the following many times, and I never understood it until recently: You are his wife and you know him better than anyone else. You are in the best position to interpret what he means.
Now hear this: Trust yourself. Quiet your thoughts as best you can. And, listen to the still small voice in your ear, to see if you can find your own answer to your question. Often that voice is God talking to you. Pay attention and pray!
