He proceeded to tell me that I am acting so pathetic and I need to think. Again, WTF!!!!
While some of this may have come from what your mom told him, some must have come from his observations. And if that's what he is seeing, I think there is a good chance that's what your H is seeing. If that's the case, you know it is going to work against you.
So, I would try to look at your actions and reactions from the other side, as well as you can. Are your boundaries clear, and being clearly enforced? I know you are a strong woman, but are you showing it?
