But you dont change. You pray, you have faith.. I am not so sure about the patience part but there is NO change. Any tiny glimmer of change quickly reverts you back to your old ways.
What did you do to prepare for the interview?
Sure I have changed. I respect my W's boundaries now. I don't pester her. I do things for myself without asking her for any kind of help. I take care of myself. I get bored and lonely at nights when I don't have the kids. Big deal. Who doesn't?
I think if you truly love someone, you will always miss them. In this case W.
Oh, to prepare for the interview that I have not yet had today, I mainly talked to my BIL who got me set up with it. He gave me a lot of good info.
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
Kevin, I am the worst with anything religious. But didn't God give people free will to do what ever they wanted. So therefore your wife can indeed leave you? IDK, I pray for strength to handle things or my sons' health but never for a specific thing. Like even when my Dad was dying- I didn't pray he would recover. I just prayed that he not suffer much. Again I am far from an expert. Not sure if I am understanding rejoice minstries mantra...
Anyhow-good luck on the intereview. I mean- I KNOW you are going to do a great job.
Also, positive words, you seem to be a loving dad.
M38, H37 S3, S7 Together 15 yrs Married 8 yrs Bomb July 2008 Inhouse separation "I hate you" "We are over" (too many times to count) Reconciled Sept 2009 (still worth it)
My two cents. Kevin is not the only person here using faith and prayer to try to heal his marriage. But he is the only one who gets criticized for it. There are many different belief systems out there, and we are entitled to believe the one we have chosen. If he falls off the wagon and says ugly things to his wife, then yes, give him a 2X4. But if you don't buy his beliefs, you should move on to a different thread. He has a right.
Sara- Aaaarg, I told myself and posted that I would not be on this thread anymore but you got me. This is NOT about religion. It is about how he uses it to keep him from TCB.
Let's please try to recognize the distinction.
That's it...God help me, I've got to stay off of this thread...
Having just traveled back, I am not even going to go back and read on your thread. I am going to call around 8 and you are going to update me on what has happened, changed or improved since we talked last week.
No posting, no nothing - just give it to me straight.
Me 45, H 46, S 23, M 26, Together 30, Bomb 6-2-08, S 6-19-08; H left 12-29-08. H home 12-09, Still MLC in 2012! Me- I have my big girl panties on. Bring it.
My dad is going to be here shortly coming in from out of state. Is there any way we can maybe do this phone call on Saturday?
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
Me 45, H 46, S 23, M 26, Together 30, Bomb 6-2-08, S 6-19-08; H left 12-29-08. H home 12-09, Still MLC in 2012! Me- I have my big girl panties on. Bring it.
For everyone's info - Kev and I talked. Will be checking back with him Saturday.
Me 45, H 46, S 23, M 26, Together 30, Bomb 6-2-08, S 6-19-08; H left 12-29-08. H home 12-09, Still MLC in 2012! Me- I have my big girl panties on. Bring it.
