Long Journey .......... advice please

[Sanderika]

YES, Cas....

Absolutely YES on the food!!!!!

My H, or my kid, has never refused my food. It didn't matter how mad he was at me. In return I always knew he was pleased and very appreciative that I thought enough to supply it. It's also great that your kids and in-laws will be able to enjoy your cooking right along side of H.

They will be so busy and it will be available as each one of them is ready to eat. H moving, he will have everything all boxed up and take out is so expensive, especially for a crowd. Lots of good reasons to do it.

So not to seem too pushy or controlling or pursueing for that matter, pass it on to them all through one of the kids. Make sure the kid knows your thoughts and ideas behind the gesture.

I wouldn't email the plan to H, I would let the kid you want to carry it all know as soon as possible. Simply make sure all is ready first thing in the morning and then stay in the background. You can smile all day knowing you are doing something thoughtful, loving and kind.

OH Yeah.....I would make sandwiches and cake!!!!! I would make sure the favorites were chosen and I would make plenty for seconds.

It's so funny you mentioned H and D fought over a piece of cake. Last fall my son and H fought over a piece of apple pie and to hear them re-tell the story I thought I was going pee my pants we were all laughing so hard.

You have a very good idea for warming up the atmosphere in your sitch. There can only be positives that come from it.

I hear you Cas, it's hard not to think about every angle when it's time for a decision to be made. A lot of it is gut instinct. I think your gut instinct told you this idea was a winner. Now you have received validation from three friends.

Make sure you let us know how it goes. Don't be disappointed if the thank-you from H isn't right away. He will be thankful, trust me.

Let us know what you made....I love food!!!!

Have fun with this one Cas,

(((((Hugs)))))

Sanderika