Probably too late

[Dia]

It's ok. We've all been there.

It's cold comfort, I know, but you will get through this either way.

If you need to, give yourself permission to be a basket case for an hour or two (set a timer). Then pull yourself up and start making preparations to move on with your life. As you've said, it won't be all that different than what you've been doing for the past year. If he comes back, you'll be in an awesome place and you can re-negotiate your marriage then if that appeals to both of you. If he doesn't come back, you'll have an awesome life.

Not to harp - but please go get the letter if you haven't already. THEN you can be a basket case if you want.