I don't believe that they think about us until they either get caught or divorce papers are filed. I know my H thought that what he was doing was 'wrong' but did not think about my feelings until he actually got caught doing it. I still wonder if he even realizes the pain that he caused another human being because of his actions.
Hope you get to caourt soon. I hope that it doesn't end up being a long drawn out proccess for you.
Me-31 Him-28 D1-9 D2-6 Married 5-06 Seperated 12-07 He filed 1-08 Reconciled 4-08 D dropped 7-08 Bomb dropped about H's activities outside the marriage 4-21-09 Filed for D 4-28-09 Trying to make a go of it 6-09