Just now caught up, been out of town for a bit, Vegas baby! Sorry, anyway I think you are doing great. I am very friendly with strangers but not very talkative. I am from the South so, it is kind of in my blood to be nice to everyone.
Think of her as the bus driver of your children, if the bus driver says something, really listen to that person and validate what they are saying. Would you have a deep conversation with the bus driver or close the bus door for the driver, no, that is the job of the driver. I would not get a cone for the driver either, unless the driver asked me for one, then I would gladly get one for them, again just my nature.
So, treat her like a stranger, nice and upbeat, it makes it easier. It should not be a question in your mind whether it is cold or dark, and you cannot control what is in her mind.
You may not get her back, that is a real possibility but so is the possibility of her coming back to you, and what you are doing is the best way to do that. Then the question shifts to you, Do you want her back?
