more time with your kids and all alone too? Guess she doesn't think you're a serial killer now, does she?
Good luck, j-
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
I hope the word gets out to all my followers, past and present,to come back and read this, just to show them that NO ONE is immune to pathology.
Kalni...someone get Kalni.....
Today, I took my kids in the morning since STBXW had an exam and dropped them at my mom's house. I had office hours. My mother took the kids to breakfast and then to her local community pool. Noonish, my STBXW calls me and asks when I will get the kids home. Responded 130'ish ("I have plans with the kids").
I pick the kids up and take them home. STBXW is sitting on the stoop on her cell phone. The kids asked her multiple times where they are going. She didn't respond while I was there.
STBXW: You'll find out when you get there. That's what MY MOM told me.
I offered to give her D6's clothes but she told me that she would be going swimming again. Instead of running back to work, I went into the house to cool off and grab a bite. About a 1/2 hour later, my sister texts me:
STBXW is over at HER HOUSE with my STBXBIL.
HOLY SHIL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
After one week of studying and barely seeing the kids SHE TAKES THEM TO MY SISTER'S HOUSE, TO HANG WITH MY BIL!!!.
Now, for those who don't recall:
my sis is in a horrible divorce with my STXBIL, who is a foreign national and made the D disgusting
my sis and STBXW now hate each other
my STBXW hasn't seen our cousins in MONTHS (well...now..at least to MY knowledge)
clearly, my STBXW is in communication with my STBXBIL...has been in the past
As I drove to work, her car was parked in my sis' place close up to the garage door.
YOU JUST CAN'T MAKE THIS UP!!!!!
Wow.
Either:
STBXW and STXBIL are having or had an affair
they are combining against my sis and me; both have a victim type personality
or, they are considering (?) a way to keep one of the homes together? Nah...it couldn't be, could it?
Many years ago, I caught STXBIL throw my then wife a look that, well, a man knows. It was a look of "ha...I got that...or...I want you again". My STXBIL has always been a flirt and prior to this, I always had a brief moment of suspicion.
But....this is water under the bridge.
I will say NOTHING. I am OK, but, this is really f'd up. Think about it the situation and why would ANYONE arrange that meeting?? Unless...STBXW is letting her guard down now that we are near the end. After a year of her surveiling me re: the kids crawling into the bed...and taking photos of me....she let both of them sleep with her the other night.
You just can't make this up. My sitch....has turned out...to be really F'd up. GET ME OUTTA HERE.
FIB
Me 55; XW 47; 2 kids (S13, D11) Bomb 05/19/06 Original thread http://tinyurl.com/yg2ou2t Last anniversary 04/25/10, Divorced 5/12/10 Status: Loving father of 2 beautiful children;
Me 55; XW 47; 2 kids (S13, D11) Bomb 05/19/06 Original thread http://tinyurl.com/yg2ou2t Last anniversary 04/25/10, Divorced 5/12/10 Status: Loving father of 2 beautiful children;
Point of this post? Many of us put TOO MUCH BLAME on ourselves. OK...I'm not going backwards and saying, "Aha....we did nothing. We are perfect." But, as time has gone on, I see clearly now that the person I married was a mask of something underneath.
It was totally pathologic for my STBXW to go over to my sister's house yesterday with my BIL:
it was a violation of her personal space
it created confusion among my two cousins
it was a loud message of FU to both of us
it clearly shows that the two of them are in cohoots..to..whatever degree
clearly, it shows extreme selfishness on STBXW's part to do this right now
I feel worse for my sis than I do, at all, for me. I didn't say anything to my kids. They DID tell me that they went over and saw "Uncle Adam" for the first time in a year. He is NOT their uncle anymore, but, I said nothing to reverse that. I WILL correct it when this is all over and we are divided.
In addition, my STBXW wrote PARAGRAPHS about me sleeping with the kids and how she had to have temporary custody to 'protect S8'. Well, can you imagine the urge to control to not take photos of HER SLEEPING WITH THE KIDS FOR THE LAST THREE NIGHTS?
No...not doing it. Not going there. Not ramping up the tension. Yada yada. This just needs to get done.
After 3 years, this still blows me away....how different a person she is...or...should I say how I missed who she really was. Ow.
FIB
Me 55; XW 47; 2 kids (S13, D11) Bomb 05/19/06 Original thread http://tinyurl.com/yg2ou2t Last anniversary 04/25/10, Divorced 5/12/10 Status: Loving father of 2 beautiful children;
