The truth is that we alone hold the power to make ourselves whole, to love ourselves, encourage, support, empower, and affirm our own value. God created us for love, and the first step is to love ones own self, just as we are, just as God loves us, thoroughly, deeply, and unconditionally. When we have achieved the self love that we were born to hold, then we will recognize the love that is in all else.
Take care Frank, you're struggle is an inspiration to many.