Your h doesn't respect you at the moment, but that will probably change down the line. Especially if you really have moved on without him.

I was a loyal W for 12 yrs. Bomb on 11/08. D final 12/09. My h is a WAS who left to chase after OW at work. They are now M.

You can look up my short, sad story in the divorce forum. Or search my name.