Yes he is. But I am beginning to wonder if he's more of a bad rememberer than an actual liar.....meaning, maybe I argue too fast for him and he says things and forgets because the conversation was too fast for him!
And as far as my S goes, I got that advice very early on and with a great explanation, so he's been center stage for this whole time...even during the dark days.
And her ass is gone, very soon and out of sight, out of mind.