yeah, guys, can you believe that crap? he didn't go and I'd like to think when I told him "I'm not saying don't hang out, but if it's you and her alone, we're done. I have my boundaries and self respect." He said "You're always trying to control me!" I said "Look, if you want to throw away a future of making love to me (check post on SM's page...I have fun bags!) for a few hours alone with her, then I can't stop you and therefore, I don't have control. What I'm telling you is this is where I stand....I won't be hurt over this person anymore. Your choice, I have no control only you do."
He didn't go. Later when he called to say goodnight to S, he says to me "See, all that drama for nothing." I wanted to punch him.
I'd like to think it was me telling him what the outcome would be if he went out alone with her is what stopped him. Truth be told, he may have just wanted to push my buttons and they were never planning to hang out. Who knows? I know this: no matter what, he didn't go.
Well, we've kind of been messin' around rather than solving the M crises lately...
I didn't email because I closed my D18's FB account. It was tied to my email address, and I'm not sure I wanted that connection anymore! I pray daily for her to get a brain! LOL Actually, she's doing ok, just not doing it my way! I will email the pic I wanted you to see, instead!
I'm five hours from St. Louis. I need to get there for work, but I'm not sure I'd find anyone in on a SUNDAY!!
I'm going to check out your thread next. Hope it's not more of that naked for hours talk! LOLOL
You're the best!
Me-46, D-21, S15, S13
After many years w/my head in the sand... I FILED Divorced 6/2011
The average woman would rather have beauty than brains, because the average man can see better than he can think.
1st day of SCHOOL ALL DAY! Yea! Why do I feel guilty doing the happy dance? LOL Actually, I'll probably be a little sad, around lunchtime. The S's are a piece of work.
Lunch w/a friend, who also is Director of Marketing for a software company that COULD make life easier for my company. So, we're lunching, then demo'ing!
I'm having to work too much, out and about. I'm going to have to shop. Whatever happened to being able to work in shorts and a baseball cap? This is cramping my laid back style! Hair done, outfit "done," accessorized, bag packed... Sheesh! Think I'll make an appointment 2x a week to have a "blow out" so I have good hair during the week. LOL
Football, soccer training, gk training, etc... this evening. Where's my taxi sign for my car door?
Dimming out on the H... I'm too available to him. How interesting is that? He needs to work for it.
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Me-46, D-21, S15, S13
After many years w/my head in the sand... I FILED Divorced 6/2011
The average woman would rather have beauty than brains, because the average man can see better than he can think.
LOL! That butt! He didn't even go then, and gives YOU the drama line. Well, at least he made the right decision in the end. Probably in fear of that punch, OR lack of access to the FUN BAGS! LOL
Whatever his motivation for not going. He didn't. You know he didn't. He made sure you knew he didn't. (Even if it was in a stupid way...)
SO, she leaves soon, and without a send off. What's next???
Me-46, D-21, S15, S13
After many years w/my head in the sand... I FILED Divorced 6/2011
The average woman would rather have beauty than brains, because the average man can see better than he can think.
All you need to keep D18 in check on FB is to make her believe you're still getting the emails from her account. Nothing else is needed, just the illusion of you checking in over her shoulder.
She is moved out, paying her own tuition (this semester), and earning her way to individual and supported success.
These teens are nuts. I remember being nuts (still am!), but I had my sh*t together (still do!). I think I/we spoiled her too much. The work = success connection is not there yet. She's getting her crash course now!
Sounds odd, especially coming from me, but I can't watch the documentation of every step of her "learning" right now. Besides, it feels like I'm looking in a freakin' mirror! LOL Been there done that, with blonder hair!
Me-46, D-21, S15, S13
After many years w/my head in the sand... I FILED Divorced 6/2011
The average woman would rather have beauty than brains, because the average man can see better than he can think.
You're absolutely right. There's a lot of teens that are missing the work = success connection! (I really like your way of summarizing that btw!) Hope the crash course doesn't end in a crash!!
I think we're back on track. He made effort and basically let me know he's NEVER going out with her again in any capacity. I wonder if they had a little spat about it.
I think we're back on track. He made effort and basically let me know he's NEVER going out with her again in any capacity. I wonder if they had a little spat about it.
Be careful, hon. Remember he's a liar.
And please don't waste any time wondering about them.
Yep, Stace was at work early. Six and a half hours ofm ore unpacking, but I'm actually seeing a light at the end of this tunnel. I think I'll be done with all this a$$ busting work by tomorrow - Saturday at the latest.
Still have to put up boards, label cubbies, all that stuff, but that's light work compared to this week!!
My nails are a disgrace. Getting a mani the minute this packing nightmare is done.
Had another interaction w/my Arch Nemesis, the troll principal. More changing table drama. I've decided that she seems to feed off of other people's negative emotions -- so I stayed very neutral, didn't engage her at all -- that way she doesn't have the high emotions to draw off of. He!!, am I DB'ing my boss???
I think going dim w/your H is a great idea. Let him miss you.
