WAW - Very confused and devastated - pt 11

[Stronger]

CIPA still has the home there, she got an apartment so he stays at him home....another reason to get that job back home.

[confusedinpa]

Stronger is right

I'm in the home (and paying for it) until the divorce is finalized

[MrBond]

So how were things today after you picked up the kids?

Great way of handling her. I would push it further by not answering her calls. You're still doing it.

[confusedinpa]

It was a great day with the boys. After breakfast , the three of us packed for our trip. They were very excited to see my friends an their kids.

I did text her "In CT" as she asked me to let her know as I walks awaybfrom her in the driveway this morning. I had said "ok" without even looking at her. She had replied to the text "thanks"

No call from her to the kids tonite. Don't know what she's doing or who she's doing it with but I don't care.

My buddy and gia wife has been very supportive and haven pressed me for detials. When I get down a little they do listen but I force myself back to the moment of enjoying the moment with the kids

So goes another day

Not sure if it is getting easier or not

I hope it does

[The Wifey]

OK I joined as CI PA

I came up with a bunch of folks for Kalni

Can someone friend me and help me get in?

I think only officers of the group can invite you. I sent a message to Jeff and he will send you an invite. Kalni is a more than a little occupied.

Be patient, little grasshopper.

KJ

[Sara]

I just sent you a friend request. Once you friend me, I can invite you to join.

[Tomato]

I said thanks bye...she keeps talking....I said thanks bye....she keeps talking.....LMAO!!

Good job.

I don't care if everyone disagrees with me....this is her feeling you out.

it sure seems like it to me. and I have good personal experience and oh so fresh at that to have at least half a clue as to the feeling out thing.

T

[Tomato]

good morning to you cipa

just keep being you man. reminds me of one of the first things that I remember my darling mentioning to me shortly after we first met. She had the mantra on her mind, "Be true to thine one self". I believe she did/does still have it enscripted on something or other too. It is a good one to live by for sure!!

At some point I will unbury my own thread to post an update.

But in the mean time I will mention here that the communication impasse between myself and my darling was lifted today. It appears I will be spending quality time with her tonight. Any time is quality time! Thanks be to God!

I will probably give ya a call either today or tomorrow cipa to see how you are doing with those awesome boys of your's. Be well brother. One are one heck of a strong ombre. You continue to impress me big time! Aside from sleeping from 10am - 3pm today after a long night last night (3 hours flying) feel free to call me if you wish. Real funny that I didn't even grab your name last time .. I am dense ..lol.

T

T

[confusedinpa]

It was a great Fri visiting my friends. My 7 year old loves playing with my friends 10 year old son and 9 year old daughter. My 3 year old loves playing with my friends 4 year old daughter as well as chasing the 3 older kids

We started with soccer then finished with baseball. I took all the kids for ice cream before lunch. After lunch, I took a nap with my 3 year old. After nap we all worked on puzzles since it was pouring out. My boys were bumming that we couldn't go swimming but they still had fun. Then we shot some pool and played table tennis.

It cleared up in time to go to the baseball game. Our team won 7 - 2 so there was a lot of action to watch.

She did call just before lunch. I was surprised as she didn't call at all the last time we had come up. That was the weekend she got the apartment so she was busy shopping for stuff. I said hello and she asked to talk to the boys. I handed the phone to both on speaker phone so they could both talk (we were in the car). When the boys were done talking, I just hung up.

I don't think she is feeling anything out, except other guys, but I don't care what she does. Perhaps this is detachment that everyone has been pressing me to get to. Or I'm just so disgusted and angry

When she dropped the divorce bomb on me in Jan, she had said that as I hurt her over the years, I was chipping away at the love she had for me till there was nothing left. I didn't understand how that was possible as I felt true love endures and last forever (sorry for the hallmark moment). Now I feel that my love got nukes the nite I found out the disgusting truth

Now I truly see her. Part of what made me fall in live with her was her kindness and goodness that I would see in her soul when I would look in her eyes. Now I can't even look at her without wanting to throw up. Now she wasn't a virgin when I met her, she had a boy friend in HS, so I was her second guy. On the nite we had gotten married she cried as we were about to make love and said she wished that she could have been giving me her virginity. That was the girl I married. Not a girl who is surfing the net looking to meet guys for "casual relationships" according to her emails she sent out and her match com profile

[confusedinpa]

The boys and I had a lot of fun with my friends and his family. My 7 year old crashed his bike though and scrapped his chin. My first though, once I realized he was ok, was that the pig will use this against me in custody. Fortunately my buddy got the whole thing on video as we were videoing the kids using their bikes.

We wound up going swimmng as well. The kids had a blast.

It turned crappy when the kids were showing afterwards, my 7 year old was getting really on edge. I asked him what was wrong and he lost it. He said he was sad that mommy wasn't coming home. I gave him a hug and told him that I love him and I was sorry about what was going on. I told up that daddy is really sad and hurt too. I told him that it helps daddy to talk about it and if he wants to talk about it, daddy would love to talk to him about it. He said he knows but he didn't want to talk about it any more

My friends saw how upset he was and asked what happened. I told them and they both could not believe how selfish she was acting. I had to agree. It still hurts and I'm disgusted and mad, but the waves comes and go. I do look back at all that people have said to me to help me cope/deal. I know I need to focus on what I still have, not what I have lost

I just hope my boys can understand that too

She didn't call today at all. I was actually relieved that she didn't as I don't want to hear from her. I'm dreading tomorrow as it was a nice escape for the boys and I but we do have to go home. What's worst is that she will take them omortow evening. I know that the boys need to see their mom but I get sick thinking of her kissin the boys knowing what she has done with her mouth as well as what's been going on in her apartment

I think I'm going to puke