My Intro: Thanks for Reading!

[RedSoxFan]

What "reassurances" does your W have that you're not going to cheat on her again? Being on the other side isn't fun isn't it?

No it isn't fun at all. It sucks! And you're right. She has no reason to trust me or believe in me...zero!

If I were her, I wouldn't trust you. You only came back because she found someone who made her happy after you made her life a living hell. We all know how it feels.

That's not the reason I came back...I had been moving in that direction for sometime. I was taking my own sweet time though, that's for sure. I still wasn't aware fully of the context and implications. Make no mistake, when the OM surfaced it struck a blow like nothing I've ever experienced. It was definitely a wake up call.

The only thing you can give her is time. You took her trust and trampled all over it. Showing her statistics and articles almost seems like a joke because you didn't follow them.

Give her space and start re-establishing the trust in the R. Real trust and not blindly doing what you think she wants because she'll read right through it.

Thank you for that guidance. I'm doing my very best to follow exactly what you describe. I go back and forth with myself about whether I even have a right to ask her to save our marriage. I hurt her really bad.

I don't know if this means anything but she tells me that the affair wasn't the main issue and that she forgave me for that (she herself had an affair several years back). She says that the walking out is the thing that did the damage. Sigh.