Please Please Please, for the love of all that's holy on earth, listen to me....If you don't hear me now, I can tell you, you will get divorced....are you listening? Open your eyes, and really open your heart right now, this is important:
Every time she says "We're done, I'm not coming back, It's over, Our family will never be together again...." Think of each statement as nails....those nails are going into your marital coffin.
Every time she says something like that, it become more and more real to her, more and more over and done. Think about it R, if you said to your kids "We're going to see Santa" just one time and it doesn't happen...not a big deal right? You wouldn't feel this gigantic obligation to go see Santa...right? But if you told your kids 100 times "We're going to go see Santa" what would happen if you didn't? There would be hell to pay. Does tha make sense? The more you say you are going to do something, the more committed you become to it.
You seem to think these outburst of love are going to get her to come back...why?
This is going to be a very hard thing for you to hear and maybe harder for you to believe, but you have to.....Your wife probably does still love you, BUT SHE DOES NOT LIKE YOU. She doesn't want to be around you, she doesn't want to deal with you. And if you keep this crap up, she's going to continue to feel like she is DEALING with you. No one wants to DEAL with other people. You want to interact with them, enjoy their company, right?
Volley dog is right, all business now. Nothing about emotion, nothing about love, nothing about fighting for this marriage. You don't treat her like crap, you treat her with the respect the mother of your children deserves. BUT back off the relationship talks NOW.
I promise you are pushing her so far away, you might not recover.
That email was not effective toward your cause of saving your marriage...and the part about OM coming into your child's room....wow dude, over board.
You can do this R, you just have to listen to the vets here.
I'm going to copy something I posted on my thread here on yours.....it will give you hope, or I hope it will.
Hold on tight, we're with you. But please stop it now.
