I realize that my 20+ years of observing and studying these things should have absolutely no bearing against some of the others who have been on here for what? 3 months to a year?
Yes Steve. As you said, I have seen the exact things over and over and over and over and over and over and over.
This is another rerun. She IS in one. Until he admits that and makes his game plan based on that fact, this is only dying a slow death. You know what they say about relationship endings don't you?
A BLOWOUT is far better than a slow leak..
Go ask confusedinPa.. He WASTED month after month after month being a doormat to find out that it WAS NOT the issue. The issue was as usual ANOTHER MAN...
He is needlessly getting people to do everything but face reality. Is she this? Is she that? Why is she this? Why is she that? Why did she say this? Why did she say that?
Facing the truth IS being strong. Not facing it is being weak.
Others saying that "he knows her better than anybody" is ridiculous. That is just an excuse to not truly want to help him to get this thing back under control. Orich has been on here long enough that he should be emotionally much much farther down the road. Go read his first couple of posts on his first couple of threads. Not much different than today. That isn't growth. It is time for him to start getting decisive in his life and quit waiting on her. The sooner he does his homework and admits to himself about the affair is when he can move ahead.
