When she chased and pursued the relationship with you, then you weren't sure what you wanted and such...
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I withdrew further than I ever had before. I asked my wife for time away from the marriage but she would not agree.
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My wife eventually found out about the affair. We went to marriage counseling (we had done so several times in the past) but I was like a cornered animal. I was lying about the affair, trying to cover it up. She was begging me to reconcile and to save our family
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We went down the path of her saying she would give up and let go if I said I didn’t love her, etc., etc. So I did. I told her what I thought she needed to hear to leave me alone.
When she stopped chasing and pursuing and suddenly had someone else she was interested in and decides she does NOT want you..
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Out of nowhere came a new relationship fast and furious. I learned from my children that they had gone for a weekend trip and had slept at his house when they were rained out. I was broadsided when I found out. Words cannot describe how hurt I was…maybe much the way she felt when I left her. I confronted her about the situation and she started admitting it in little bits and pieces until she finally said…so what, I’m having sex. So what! I deserve happiness.
You THEN wake up and can't live without her and would do anything to make it work?
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I immediately shared all of my feelings with her. I cried (this is a new me) and begged. I went on for weeks (started about a month from today) but she basically said…you forced me to move on and I did. I grabbed DB during that time and I knew I was doing the wrong things but I couldn’t help myself. I had discovered that I lover her even more than I always thought. I realized how important our family is. I came to understand the likelihood that we’d both regret divorce 5 years from now. I shared all of this with her but nothing.
Now that you are acting like she did, she is acting like you did? Correct?
So what she did when you didn't want her didn't work? Correct?
Then why are you doing the exact things that the facts show didn't work for her?
