R, don't go to her elders yet. See what you can do first. Try the DB ways first and if there's no progress and you want to force her hand...I won't stop you. But give this process a try first.
You need to grow up. I know that sucks to hear but you do. You are a mature man I'm sure when it comes to everything but her. It's amazing how the person we love can make us soooo stupid. Don't you think? Just like you CAN bring out the best in each other, we can bring out the worst in each other too.
But you haven't even tried this path yet....please give it a try. I think you can do it and I think she wants you to fight FOR her, that doesn't mean fighting WITH or AGAINST her.
Know what I mean?
Here is some more good news...you start acting mature and adult-like, it will only force her to do the same. Remember it will be a slow process most likely, but you can do it. I really have faith in you. I trust you can do this.
