One more thing. I understand, and agree, that not every sitch here involves an A. I suspected my W was in one, but only based upon her dropping the bomb. I looked for any evidence, and did not see any, nor have I seen any behaviour that would indicate one. I do not think my W is having an A, but that does not mean I am turning a blind eye to that possibility (and I'm not suggesting you are either).
Alls I'm saying is that after my W dropped the bomb on me, I no longer rule ANY possibility out. Trust, but verify.
