Working on my GALing and detaching in a big way today. We changed drop-off/pick-up so it's now at a neutral place. H can no longer just come and go from the house. This has helped me feel better, less stressed. I took the day off of work and relaxed with my Mom, looking at paint samples to paint the house, etc. Also, I'm having a party at my house! A housewarming party! Since we never had one for either house we bought in the past three years, I thought it would be good for my soul and my friends. Although many of my friends wanted it to be a divorce party, I've made it clear that I want it to be a housewarming/good Karma party instead. Taking the happy road! H is taking our son on a long weekend 6-hours away so no worries that the party will kick H into some kind of jealous rage. H has been waffling about the trip for weeks now but his best friend convinced him to go on the trip with him and his family. So my reaction to the news was upbeat, saying our son would have a great time. I'm sure he expected me to be bitter or angry about it---but I'm sincerely not. Without being a doormat (which I'm now seeing I need to be more firm but friendly), I offered for them to take the portable DVD player for the trip.
Today we had a detailed, pleasant phone call about our work schedules and picking up son. I'm making more plans for my new life with or with H.
Me 39, H 41 M 17, T 21 Son, 4 Bomb 2.09, Two EAs Separated 8.4.09 My Long Story and First Postings
