Another obstacle to all of this is that I'm saying many of the same things to her that she said to me 10 months ago. It's no surprise that she is pretty sour about that.
So, stop. She knows, spent months processing and working her way out of her feelings and now you want to convince her of something she already knew! That would drive me f'ing crazy.
The counseling and Retrovaille should come in later. First, she needs to feel that you are viable as a family IMO. Think back to when she was trying to convince you...it doesn't work. You had to SEE something, experience something to change.
Kudos to you for being willing to step up to this. You must give her time. Think about what she has gone through. It is not tit for tat...I don't think her MO is to harm you but definitely to protect herself.
My best guess is that the other guy is a weenie compared to you. Am I right? Maybe that will help you back off a little.
