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[RedSoxFan]

Yes, buy a house near her. You reason is legitimate and makes complete sense AND the side benefit...you're close to her.

I think the house is a really good option, even a necessity, if the marriage ends permanently. In the short-term it has a psychological effect of permanence much like the divorce. Regardless of what people say there is a sense of permanence to a divorce that greatly reduces the chance of long-term success. I'm worried the house will have a similar effect on her.

I think I know the answer to this, but what are the chances of you moving back into the house? My guess is no way jose.

Definitely no way jose at the moment.

Eventually this other guy will screw up. Let him and hope it is a big one.

Don't talk about him anymore. Unless there's a very good reason to, like the FB thing, he no longer exists. You are a thorn in his side, not the other way. Remember that and act accordingly. She will notice you never bring him up and that will make it that much more annoying when he talks about you.

OK. I've already told her that I won't compete with him. She knows my position and the balls in her court. It definitely gets me when he tries to compete with me by interacting with my kids. The FB really bothers me because I interact with the kids daily on FB.

So have you tried to ask her out to dinner or lunch, but on a day when you aren't working so there's no rush?

I have but she's rejected me. I think I'll let things cool for a week or two then ask again. Meanwhile OM is working it hard.