Young couple in need of help

[sumguy27]

Yeah It was hard last night because I was being different at first. I was cheerful smiled at her. After she ate i was holding my little girl and when she was falling alseep in my arms she was the one to initiate the conversation. Its even harder when the R is brought up. Its hard not to start a screaming match with her I should have just left but I did the wrong thing and pushed and pushed again.

I guess I'm going to try the Hmong way of things tomorrow night and talk with her father and his clan. The thing that sucks is my clan is never really there for my family since we have converted to Christianity when I was young. So I will have to face her elders and her father alone with the Hmong way of things. The scary part is just being there to fend for myself. Normally your suppose to show up with your elders also and both elders acts as mediators. This is the mature Hmong way to handle things I guess.

That part of reconsidering things made me boggle my mind. I replied saying that she should have at least let me know so I'm not assuming things and been more direct with me. That she knows how I am right now also if she could have just said that and for me to not to do anything stupid then I wouldn't have F it up. I guess thats what everyone is looking for. If she would have told me there is some hope I would have acted differently and I guess not pursue her as much? I would think.