"You aren't suggesting that I confront the OM; are you? I have no idea what I would say."
If it were me, how about "What are your intentions with my wife? You are interfering with my family and I will do everything in my power to project my family."
Then I would call his wife or girlfriend or whatever and tell her what is going on.
Then I would write a letter, send it certified, to the human relations department of her work and inform them of what is going on between these two. Remind them about the possible sexual harassment issues that this relationship might cause. Ask them what they intend to do about the situation.
Yes your wife has issues, but the major issue for your marriage is this stain that she works with. You need to stop this.
But this is just me.
I'm a man . . . But I can change . . . If I have to . . . I guess . . .
