WAW - Very confused and devastated - pt 11

[MrBond]

heading over there now.

[davidswife]

Thanks a million, stuck.

You're the best

Stacy

[confusedinpa]

I headed home to PA last nite. Tomato and I just finished chatting on the phone when my phone beeped. I have a ringtone for her so I just answered it. It was her

I has dreaded talking to her as I was afraid of feeling the pain and violation again. She started by asking me how I wanted the laptop returned. I told her to put it in my 7year old's backpack. She then asked how to remove access to her wireless network from his laptop. I was in utter disbelief but just said I don't know. She said that she doesn't like me having access to her network. I said it would only work in her place. She said I could sit in her parking lot. I just shook my head and said I don't know how to remove wireless access and said she should just turn off her router. She said that would be inconvienient for her. I just said I don't know then

There was a few seconds I silence so I said is that it? She then mentioned my 7 year old had a field trip at camp. I told her I know and would pick him up before his trip. She then asked if she should just drop them off at the house. I said ok and told her to call me when she got to the driveway so I can open the door for them.

Ahe then asked if I was on the way home now. I said I am. She said have a safe trip. I said thank you an bye. She said bye and I hung up

She called back about 45 minutes later telling me about my 7year old's ear problem. She suggested getting drops. I said ok I will pick some up. She said she would pack some with cottonballs for me. I said thank you and bye and hung up

She did try to call about an hour after my boy's bedtime. I didn't answer nor did she leave a message. I almost called her back to see if there was something important but didn't

Oddly, when she used to call or I would see her, I felt like I was a puppy and my favorite person just came in the room. In my heart I was running in circles with my tail wagging excited to see her. Now there was just nothing. I'm still dreading seeing her when she drops off the kids this morning

She just called to say she was on her way. I thanked her and said bye. She said my 7 year old has his laptop. I said thanks and goodbye. She said she packed extra swim trunks. I said thanks and bye. She said packed the drops for my son. I asked if there was anything else. She said no. I then asked her to call when she got to the driveway so I could let the boys in. She said ok. I said bye and hung up

I hope I can stay strong when I do see her.....

[Stronger]

I said thanks bye...she keeps talking....I said thanks bye....she keeps talking.....LMAO!!

Good job.

I don't care if everyone disagrees with me....this is her feeling you out.

[JKL2009]

I agree Stronger, it was probing and testing. Good job!

[confusedinpa]

I had set up a video to document in the event of any dispute

I met them out in the driveway. I was thrilled to see my boys and my 3 year old almost knocked me over to give me a hug. The first thing he said was can I play with me. I was thrilled and said absolutely. My 7 year old came over with the biggest smile I have seen in days and gave me a hug as well

She handed me the bag and I didn't even look at her in the eye. I did notice the 30 lbs she had gained this year. And I knew in my heart that had nothing to do with the disgust I felt......

She was wearing a dress and she knows how much I liked seeing her in dresses. But not this time....

[PMA_Baby!]

C - You did great. Keep it up. She will eventually stop blaming you for her hurt and pain. She is feeling the guilt and hates you for it. Keep on NOT ENGAGING her and she will have to deal with her part in ALL this sooner or later.

Great Job! Enjoy your trip with the boys. Practice STOP THINKING method. No negative thoughts about her. Just keep ALL your FOCUS on BEING IN THE MOMENT with the boys. They grow up quick

PMA

[theroadback]

Good Job conf, you handled that well.

I still think you should have a hottie answer the door wearing only one of your button down shirts. Preferably a shirt that your wife gave you ...but that’s just me...

I would love to see her face on that video.

[PMA_Baby!]

That would definitely get a reaction.

C - Where are you staying when you go home on the weekends?

Did you get an apt? I missed that.

Have a safe and fun trip.

[givingitmyall]

Great Job! Enjoy your trip with the boys. Practice STOP THINKING method. No negative thoughts about her. Just keep ALL your FOCUS on BEING IN THE MOMENT with the boys.

Great advice. And good job handling yourself CIPA.