I totally agree with you as far as doing things for yourself. I don't mind that you come across as harsh, simply because I usually agree with you. I just try to soften it sometimes because I know from experience that "harsh" can do more damage, depending on how the person chooses to "hear" what you are saying.
No never inclined to be a rockette. Too short and uncoordinated LOL. I appreciate that you respect my feelings and I know you weren't really asking me to divulge any secrets.
Of course, there is the issue with H and his snooping (he has had a bad habit if really misinterperating things because he chooses not to ask if he is unsure of what something means and just makes assumptions that are usually wrong but that is his problem).
There is also the fact that I don't have a ton of the issues I used to. Yes I still have feelings and thoughts about H's family and some of the stuff that occurred in his life and in ours, but I can't change the past and I can't let it ruin my future...And I don't need to just simply air that dirty laundry here or anywhere, unless I feel it will help someone else.
My H, he may be one of the ones who remains stuck. It is unfortunate. He has habits and mindsets that have been ingrained and modeled to him by so many people in his life that I just do not know if even God will ever break through. Dysfunction should be the first, middle, and last name of every person in his biological family. I am coming to terms with that. He has a wonderful heart underneath it all, but his head and their thinking confuses him so much. I can't seem to get it into his head that he needs to "lighten up" about so many things, stop "running", accept that people make mistakes and that forgivness and understanding are really important. I have been working on that for more years than this has been going on. My biggest regret, is that I allowed myself to join him and them in the pit. But I have climbed out now (although I still fall back in once and a while), and that is what is important.
I may be familiar, Mach. I am still the same core person, with the same core beliefs, beliefs that I have always had, that I began to become comfortable with before I stopped posting, and that was coming through before I stopped. I keep a lot of it quiet now, but it comes through sometimes before I can stop it.
"Acceptance doesn't mean resignation. It means understanding that something is what it is and there's got to be a way through it."--Michael J. Fox
