Divorce not busted 2

[Orich]

Again,
She was talking about being unhappy and separating long before this guy entered the picture. She told me she wanted to go to retro on the day he said he would talk to her before she even met up with him. Plus, why would he send me an email out of the blue? He didn't know I suspected anything, neither did she.
The texts were a lot, but they are all but gone now. Couldn't it be that she was reaching out to a childhood friend while she was hurting and overdid it a little? This guy is married, and from what I understand he is not leaving his wife, nor is he interested in mine. Going to the beach with no rings, I don't know why she didn't wear them that day, but she always wore them even when she met the other guy for the meetings. Even when she was on the boat, her rings were on, they were clearly seen on the pictures she put on facebook. But she did go with our kids and her sister. HER SISTER IS NOT COVERING FOR HER. I have a relationship with her sister, and I don't expect you to understand, but I believe her when she says she was with W at the beach. The boys told me what a great time they had at the beach, and again, facebook photos. Every time she goes out with her friends, there are the pictures of them, with none of him. I see on his facebook page of things he is doing related to his movie, and many nights he is either in meetings in his office, or out of town. They are not there to specifically put me off the trail as he uses his facebook page as a communication to others involved in the movie production. Finally, again, I don't care what you or anyone else says about this. Her faith would absolutely keep her from at the very least, a PA. One thing she has maintained in all of this is her strong faith. And if you knew her like I do, you would know that that is more important to her than me, the M, or even her life.
She is in some sort of MLC, coupled with depression. It is clouding her feelings about me and the M. She isn't working on the R right now because she is counting on Retrouvaille to help her sort it all out.
Not every M dissolves because of infidelity.
I have been cheated on before. I lost my first wife to another man. I think I have some insight into my own W's actions. Both my ex and current. I learned a lot from my D with my first W about cheating. Our MC is not concerned about any affairs with W, and he has spoken to her solo a few times.
Her confusion and wishy washy-ness is amplified whenever she has an appt. with her IC. I think she is trying to get W to move on, and sometimes W doesn't think it's a good idea, that she should stay. Thus the indecision.
I am not a fool. I have analyzed over and over almost every move my w has made to the point that it has become all-consuming. I might climb a clock tower with a rifle one day, but it will be because of the energy I put into over analysis, not because W is having an affair.