Give it to me straight!

[mishka422]

OMG BBJ!!! I was swamped at work (both) and totally missed all of this!

I'm so sorry Dan is pulling more of the same. YOU are not the problem and you know that. Dan is SERIOUSLY messed up in the head and will continually blame whoever is closest to him in his life for his own misery. It's time to use your head instead of your heart.

The heart is an interesting muscle isn't it? It swells with love and shrivels with indifference. It pumps faster when we are happy and pumps EVEN FASTER when we are upset. I would imagine yours is at warp speed right now. I'm so sorry.

I'm going to join Mike, John and K and say that YOU NEED TO FILE FIRST! Dan will continue to fiddle fart around with you for years if you let him. He has no intention of being a man and making a real decision for himself. He knows that the D will financially screw him but this is exactly what has to happen now.

I'm not saying that Dan is unredeemable BBJ, but I am saying that there is too much work that Dan needs to do for himself but is unwilling to do. Dan may grow up when he no longer has you involved in his daily life and realizes just how miserable he still is. He may continue to blame you, that is true, but you won't have to be subject to his hatred.

He has abused you in some of the worst ways BBJ. Although physical abuse is horrific, in some ways the metal abuse is even worse. It tears away at your psyche and causes you to doubt everything you once thought was true about yourself. I understand the pain and confusion all too well and hope you know that I am here for you and praying for you and your beautiful children.

((((((((((((((BBJ)))))))))))))))))

Sorry this has been rambling. I just keep thinking in circles because I'm so upset for you.