Maybe, maybe not. I stopped posting for the most part right around the time you registered. But you may have. If you keep talking, reading, you may occasionally find similarities in "my life story" with someone else's life story on here. I do occasionally let something slip. But to be honest, I was so utterly angry and depressed last year, that you might not believe that it was the same person anyway.
I know you never posted to me then though...
"Acceptance doesn't mean resignation. It means understanding that something is what it is and there's got to be a way through it."--Michael J. Fox
No I'm not telling who they are, sorry, because then they would know also, and only one of them does (maybe).
Actually, most of the people I posted to have moved on from here, which I think is sort of a shame. But they all have to deal with things in their own way I guess. Since the big D has come to most of them, I guess they just decided to go with it. And actually, not criticizing because they were/are good people, none of them have really done the work on themselves, just did things to see if they could make the situation different and if it didn't work, went right back to the same ol', same ol'.
I talk with a few of them offline still and it amazes me to see how after a year, they still are in the same place they were then, with themselves. One girl, it was a physically abusive R, H moved out, and still comes home just to beat her up. No exaggeration. So life goes on...You change when you are ready, if you are willing to do the work. That is the bottom line. If not, you just continue in your circumstances, allowing yourself to be the victim, and life happens to you (have watched a whole bunch of that in my H's family).
"Acceptance doesn't mean resignation. It means understanding that something is what it is and there's got to be a way through it."--Michael J. Fox
You just seem familiar to me and I can't place it....
That is something for you Cat, and I respect that for you....
Ever have that, I know this but can't place it feeling ?
Thats it for me.....
Were you ever inclined to be a rockette ?
I see that alot too.....people that just can't seem to look in the mirror and demand more of themselves....We can all be guilty of that and become complacent.
That is why I strive everyday to do better....
Not forget where I came from ...
Another reason I may come across as harsh sometimes, I want people to really make the changes about THEMSELVES and not as a ploy to win back the same old, same old.....
I totally agree with you as far as doing things for yourself. I don't mind that you come across as harsh, simply because I usually agree with you. I just try to soften it sometimes because I know from experience that "harsh" can do more damage, depending on how the person chooses to "hear" what you are saying.
No never inclined to be a rockette. Too short and uncoordinated LOL. I appreciate that you respect my feelings and I know you weren't really asking me to divulge any secrets.
Of course, there is the issue with H and his snooping (he has had a bad habit if really misinterperating things because he chooses not to ask if he is unsure of what something means and just makes assumptions that are usually wrong but that is his problem).
There is also the fact that I don't have a ton of the issues I used to. Yes I still have feelings and thoughts about H's family and some of the stuff that occurred in his life and in ours, but I can't change the past and I can't let it ruin my future...And I don't need to just simply air that dirty laundry here or anywhere, unless I feel it will help someone else.
My H, he may be one of the ones who remains stuck. It is unfortunate. He has habits and mindsets that have been ingrained and modeled to him by so many people in his life that I just do not know if even God will ever break through. Dysfunction should be the first, middle, and last name of every person in his biological family. I am coming to terms with that. He has a wonderful heart underneath it all, but his head and their thinking confuses him so much. I can't seem to get it into his head that he needs to "lighten up" about so many things, stop "running", accept that people make mistakes and that forgivness and understanding are really important. I have been working on that for more years than this has been going on. My biggest regret, is that I allowed myself to join him and them in the pit. But I have climbed out now (although I still fall back in once and a while), and that is what is important.
I may be familiar, Mach. I am still the same core person, with the same core beliefs, beliefs that I have always had, that I began to become comfortable with before I stopped posting, and that was coming through before I stopped. I keep a lot of it quiet now, but it comes through sometimes before I can stop it.
"Acceptance doesn't mean resignation. It means understanding that something is what it is and there's got to be a way through it."--Michael J. Fox
Hey it is the new moon today! Strong enough that it is going to impact the next six months. Oh and Mercury is beginning to go retrograde until into September, so you may remain "quiet" for a few weeks as Mercury rules communication.
"Acceptance doesn't mean resignation. It means understanding that something is what it is and there's got to be a way through it."--Michael J. Fox
"My H, he may be one of the ones who remains stuck"
Hmmmm,that`s a risk I face too. I`m glad of this journey though(gosh, did I say that?!) because I have learnt so much about me and know I have a lot more to learn.
Its a chance for me to find my real self. Not the bit that`s been messed up/masked up by life.Unlearning some of those crap tough behaviours. Looking into people`s eyes and seeing their pain too.
Cat, I hope you get a chance to spread your wisdom in the real world as much as you do here.
Yeah, Mach is harsh! But I love him for that-hits the nail on the head everytime.And does it with a good mind and a warm heart.
Ever read Deepak Chopra? All about synchronicity and coincidence not being merely coincidental.(go google -I`m making a bad fist of explaining it!)I love that this battle has open my eyes to the power of a Higher Power in our world.
