Ups and Downs

[Energizer Bunny]

I understand, but sometimes a 180 is not what you need. You need to also have self-respect. Just act like you are room mates, saying something like "I don't want to control you, but doing x is disrespectful to me and our child. As long as we are in the same house, you should not be out late multiple nights a week." Something like that, others on this board can help and have done the same thing. I have too. The point is to stand up for yourself while not being controlling.

Does your wife have fears of being "controlled" too? How did this work for you?

btw...W and I have gotten into it pretty hard each of the past two weekends, she said she's filing, and I decided back way off.