Hey Cat, there is not doubt in my mind that God is always listening and at work. We may not know it or understand it at the time, but He is always there.
There are no right or wrong ways to go through all this. We each have to find the path that is the right way for us.
This journey that we are on, is really and truly for us. If we are still and we listen, we can find ourselves, find our happiness and embrace the life we were meant to have.
