I am sorry. I can see that your thoughts are swirling round in your head and I understand how you feel. The best thing you can do for yourself in the present moment, which is where we have to learn to keep our focus, is find the strength to step outside of the swirling thoughts...the back and forth between negative and positive will only make you feel worse. As you said yourself, no point in mindreading. In my experience, when I engage in it, I am almost always wrong...it is uncanny. I take that back, it is not uncanny...it is because I bring my own ideas and thoughts to those I ascribe to whomever's thoughts I am trying to read. I think we all do this and it is normal, just not useful.
My advice from last night does not change...just let this lie. Look inward and see what you want for yourself and your children and give it some time...watch your wife's next actions but keep your energy on making yourself as whole and healthy and happy as you can.
