Ups and Downs

[Energizer Bunny]

I've thought about the "end game" and posted a thread on here once as well. Basically, I think it is when the WAS says "ok let's make this work."

I sure hope so. I've mentioned that I have been talking a lot to a cousin who is a former WAW herself (very insightful). This is pretty much what she says too. I think you're right on the money.

For you all dealing with WAS staying out late and such, I think you need to put a foot down and set some limits. If this is not "normal" pre-bomb behavior, then it is a good idea to think about saying enough. While you are in a relationship, sharing a home, and being parents that is not acceptable. If and when you separate and live apart, then they have to get a sitter or whatever to do that junk, but don't let yourself get run over now.

I would love to put my foot down. That would really be more of the same though. I know exactly how this would go. We've been there before. Not putting my foot down is the 180 from where I was pre-bomb.

Another conversation starting with "you can't control me," and ending with "this is why our marriage will never work," followed by her telling me she is filing for divorce and leaving for the night anyway would be a big set back at this point.

I would love to put my foot down, but I don't feel the timing is right.