JKL,

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Last night, to paraphrase, I heard my WAW tell me several times (unprompted) "why would you want to even be with me anymore when I am so angry and all I do is complain about things? I listened, said that I understood she had a lot of legit complaints and I understood she was angry. Seems like she is probing the perimeter so-to-speak. Somewhere in there she is thinking of what like would be like with us still together. Better than not thinking about it, right?


Do you see the pattern here? Before, it was all about YOU being the bad guy. All your fault for everything SHE was feeling, etc. Now, she seems to be turning this on herself a little.

Just stay the course. You know she needs time to work through her issues. You are doing the right things by just listening and validating right now.


Me 43, S11, D7
M13
Bomb 4/20/09
Current