I fell asleep in my car at lunch Tuesday. (lots of coffee in place of Red Bull) It comes and goes though. Some weeks I have been stronger and more detached. Everyone pounds it to death on here, but they're right. It's the only way to get sanity for yourself and stop pressing the W.
I was reading on your thread about the plan. I think they do have a general "Goal" of happiness, but constantly change their "plan" of how to get there. The plan that we have is the DB stuff - doing something diferent, detaching, waiting for them to initiate R talks, getting a life etc. That needs to be our plan.
My W's plan seems to change daily.
Me: 35 W: 31 S:9 M: 10 years Together 13 MySitch - Ups & Downs She moved out the day before Thanksgiving 2009, over 13 months post-bomb.