yeah I agree and it is hard to just "be friends" last night I was very tempted to give up on it. I just felt like i was the only one trying. she got the idea i was pissed and ready to give up and she wanted to talk for a longtime befor bed. she talked about how an old friend wanted to be friends on her facebook and she said no cuz he really messed up stuff. I asked her why she wanted to be friends with me and she got her usual crying going and said " because you were my husband. you were a big part of my life" then she said that I sound like I dont want to be her friend the way I asked that.
I had gotten a letter for our divorce court date (prelim, which i belive is one step from making it final)which is why we were going to talk in the first place , I ended up asking her if she would mind post poning the divorce a little even metioned changing it to a sep. she said she thought it would be a very good idea to post pone it but that was all she was not interested in changing it to a sep. she felt it was too soon for it to be final and she said it was sad.
I have to say being a "friend" like the DB says is very very hard. she was saying how she is broke and then said that i knew she was bad with money, I slipped and said yeah but i was the "ass" that ofcourse didnt go well and she said see I dont think you care to be friends with me.
Im still trying to do this one step at a time I guess my slip ups are becomming less and less. I half wonder if it will work but i guess I can see where if you feel good around someone "a friend" and you have history you would tend to lean that way at some pint down the road. memories always comeback in your head you see the good times and the bad become less and less over time as long as you dont add to the bad times and make them freash. I know when i look back at even stuff that was bad i tend to forget how bad it really was and think about the fun and happy parts and I can see that happening here
