Bear with me on this, here is what I don't understand. I don't believe W has a plan. I don't think she said, OK, I'm gonna suddenly turn around and leave my husband for whatever reason. He will be miserable, and I will live happily ever after. Wait, what's this? He isn't miserable? Now I am confused, maybe I'll stay. I think it is more like W has gradually lost her feelings for me. She doesn't think they will come back. She isn't evil, she doesn't wish pain and suffering on me, and she verbalizes this. She doesn't have a plan, she's making it up as she goes along. Ultimately she is going to do what is best for her in her mind whether I am happy or not. All that being said, I do understand that it would be better for me to appear happy and doing well, because that is more attractive than sulking and moping. So, this is the core of my fear. If I show her I am doing fine, there is an equal chance of her being attracted to me again as there is of her easily deciding to move on because I am OK. Does this make sense to anyone? I don't understand this concept of scripts and plans. I think W is confused, doesn't know what to do. And I have to come up with a plan of my own to keep her interested in me. I will continue to try and detach because I thinks the odds are better for me that way, and if it doesn't work out, I will be better for it.
Me-40 W-41 Together-10 M-8 S-6 S-4 Bomb 5/08 Bomb 10/08 Thought things were better, was wrong. Still living together Wife doesn't think she will ever love me again.
