#65 finally!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[AliSuddenly]

Hey M.. I am not surprised you are angry, of course you are, a that you want to know everything, want to confront it, her even. I dont have any feelings either way about that except.. do whatever you need to do to feel better, get past this... let it out of your body. Its harmful, enotionally and healthwise, to hold onto stuff, especially anger. So at this stage, after everything, no more "we'll see" (!!), do what you feel is best for you.

As for consequences, I agree with you, it seems unfair. In reality, his family/friends may have spoken to him, may not be impressed with him, or may feel let down by him and even see him in a new light, who knows? But I know my bf’s family rallied around him when he left me and were worried about him and as far as I know, did not try and talk him out of it, or get him to talk to me. They just accepted it and supported his decision to leave. Bloods thicker than water, so sadly, you may just have to live with him being able to carry on playing “happy families” with your in-laws, what can you do? But they know the truth and I don’t suppose they are impressed with how he has behaved.

Only thing I can think is something my Mum said to me once, when my last ex left me for another woman he met .. the greatest revenge of all, is to just be happy. Go forwards and be happier and better off. You don’t know that he is ‘fine’ and will suffer no consequences, morally, emotionally, healthwise even, karma may still bite him on the *rse! That ex, we had a lovely home together, but I later found out he became homeless, unhappy and I think, he ended up in prison eventually!!!! So you never know. Yes, he may well remarry, but would you want to be him, with his regrets???? Love Al xxx