Wife dropped another bomb yesterday

[C-Bart]

I am going to continue trying to make the changes and see if she notices or changes her heart

This may not be what you want to hear but do not do anything for her. If you want to change something in yourself do it for you. If you are doing it to try and make her notice she will see straight through you. If you work on you for you it becomes natural and much easier. Not a walk in the park kind of easy but true change takes away the need for faking it.

Start tonight. Change your attitude to one of hope regardless of the outcome you will be a better person for the experience. It may not seem like it now, but you will. Not saying it will be fun or easy but you really don't have a choice.

One more thing. A D takes time so relax. Do what you have to do to protect yourself but realize you will not be divorced tommorow.

I know you are hurting but there are better days ahead. Good luck you have allot of people pulling for you!