You aren't less than! Would I be right guessing that your H made you feel that way? (I think I need to go back and read your story.)
OK, on the job thing.... really, either one would understand if you took the other. It happens. Your old boss would certainly understand that you want to stay where you are. And the new place could understand you wanting to work where you had been previously.
They both want you, that's a good thing! See, you are not less than!
