When I finally detached, I noticed that I started daydreaming about what it would be like to be in a loving relationship with other women. I didn't care anymore about what my W did or thought. I only saw happiness for myself going forward...hope had returned back into my life. I saw myself again as a loving person. It's the lack of hope for the LBS that's drives their emotions during this time. It's imperative that the LBS detaches as soon as possible...it's their only way to reclaim their hope and dreams for the future.
I recently have found myself "re-attached" to my W as I wait for her response this upcoming Saturday. Regardless of her answer, I'm going to be happy...with or without her. A good friend of mine dealt with a WAS...she returned to him, but he now wonders if he made a mistake by accepting her back.
Maybe some of God's greatest gifts are unanswered prayers. Who knows?
-LFH
ME: 38 W: 35 D2.5 and S5 Married 12 years Separated (same house, different rooms) INILWYAM by W: 4/16/2009 The day W requested a D: 4/17/2009
