Hi, I've not read any of your thread but this one post got my attention b/c I can tell by just this "one"....that your most certainly ARE NOT detached b/c if you were.....you would not care what she thought and you wouldn't feel the need to defend yourself. You are probably trying very hard to get there, but it doesn't sound as if you've quite made it. Don't stop trying. I am sure I would be the same way b/c it has always been a "thing" for me to try to defend or justify myself and would be hard to stay quiet. However, "you" know what is true about yourself.....and so does she. It isn't necessary to tell her what she already knows.
Take care, Sandi
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
