My words may not be ones that a LBS would want to hear when they are in so much pain, but I have to think that the main reason you (or anyone) does not detach in their stitch is b/c they don't want to. You are afraid. You are afraid that the love you feel for her will go away. Am I right or wrong?

I have read your thread and many others who just can't detach, and that is what I see.....fear. It can't be fear of the WAW not loving you b/c that is how she already seems to be "now".....so I am wondering if it leaves one thing.....well, maybe more but... the biggest is fear of losing your own feelings of love for her. If that happened.....what then? What would life hold for you? Your life would be completely changed, wouldn't it? And....you don't want that to happen. You don't want to stop loving her.

I am just wondering about it and you can tell me I'm right or wrong...or crazy.....b/c I don't know.

I hope the pain eases up soon, Orich.


It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!