I respect and value your opinions about these questions that have been asked. Hope4us' question really resonates with many I think. I am not as far along this path as many of you, but I am at the point of questioning whether IF my WAS one day chooses to reconcile, how will I know that he won't have some kind of meltdown again in the future? I asked Jody (DB coach) this question and she said that in the future we would need to avoid the triggers that activated this situation. She and I haven't had the chance yet to have a complete discussion about this yet, but I keep wondering how can we (LBS's) know what all the triggers might be? .....or how many triggers need to be activated for them to leave again? In your experience on the board, do walkaways show a willingness to have these conversations?
.....and how can avoiding triggers compensate for the emptiness some of our walkaway partners feel because of abandonment they experienced as children?
Interested in any thoughts you might have on this. Thanks.
