Hey S, you ok? Listen, you feel what you feel. But let me ask you something? Do you feel better having said what you said to him? If you do, no worries, right?
The thing is this, he keeps trying to tell you things and you arent REALLY listening. But re-read some of your last few posts and you'll see what I mean.
Now, if you dont care if he is trying to tell you something, then everything is cool. But if you do, then, what are you going to do differently?
I get the boundary thing. But what exactly is your boundary? Is it that if he sees her, he cant come home? Or he can see her but he has to come home or he can see her with other people around? You see what I mean?
You set a boundary for you. But, it has to be a clear, consistent boundary that you are going to follow through on. Otherwise, it is just an empty threat.
Look, him seeing the ow sucks. Big time. But how do you think he is going to look at what you said.
I know this is so hard for you. I get that it is something you cannot tolerate. But I just want to save you some stuff down the road. Because you will have stuff to deal with if you dont let him handle this himself and just get out of the way.
Hang in there, Sweetie. You can do this. I know you can.
