RedSox- I hope Gucci or Robx or another experienced guy will chime in here.
I can't even imagine what I would do in your W's shoes. But, I think you need a timeline for yourself. How long can you give her to burn this thing out with OM before you say "enough" and pull the plug?
You better be ready to do every mugga-crackin thing necessary to make this M work if you are going to push for this because you are asking a lot.
For now, I think I would back off. Live your life. Be social. Exercise, take care of yourself, enjoy your kids. And in a little while, maybe start to see which way the tide is turning for her.
