I am going to tell you something you may not want to hear, but its the truth. Until you detach, you will continue to have the emotions you are having right now. It doesn't mean giving up. It means you go to the worst place this sitch could go in your mind and realize that even then, you will still be alive and will still have your boys. She can't take those things away from you. Once you detach, and only then, will you stand a chance os influencing your W.
That's great advice from GIMA, Orich. I would add to that, "As hard as it is, you have to stop thinking of your wife as being even a source of your comfort, much less your primary one. Even if you reconcile, she likely won't be that for many, many months. You've got to find your comfort right now from God, your family, your friends, and this forum.
