Husband left me for OW

[Arwen_in_NJ]

Since what you are doing is not working (it is a "cheeseless tunnel") you need to do things differently. Do a 180. Figure out the things you might need to change, for YOU, and start to do them.

Get a different haircut. Don't be home when he calls. Don't be quick to answer his texts or e-mails. Let him wonder about you. Take up a new hobby, or get back involved in an old one. Do SOMETHING to get yourself out of the mental hamster wheel of always thinking about him and what he is doing.

Re-read the book. ;-) There is a game plan in there.